No Romance Without Finance

Remember the Gwen Guthrie song? “Ain’t nothing going on but the rent. You have to have a J-O-B If you want to be with me”. “No Romance Without Finance”. Women enjoy being courted, wined and dined and showered with expensive gifts which is romantic but dating shouldn’t make a man bankrupt. Nor should dating involve sex in exchange for dinner, gifts, or money.

Many men are unable to date due to being unemployed or underemployed and many women are unwilling to date a man without a job, in between jobs, who wears non designer clothing, has children or lacks a formal education. This leaves many men and women single. It is always wise to carry money on a date just in case. Be responsible. It is not a man’s responsibility to take care of your debt or your bills especially in the beginning of a relationship. What are you contributing to the relationship?

A woman is supposed to be a blessing to a man and not a burden. I totally understand there are costs involved in preparing for a date such as hair, nails, makeup, new dress. Sadly, women still earn less than men so it can be a financial challenge to always contribute on a date, however God didn’t create women to be Gold Diggers.

This is what God said in the bible in Genesis 2:18 “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” See a woman’s purpose is to be a helper. Through words of encouragement, prayer, and emotional support we can help a man in various ways. We can uplift a man’s spirit and help him to avoid mistakes. Today’s modern woman should aspire to be a Proverbs 31 woman of virtue who works hard and is a blessing to her husband.

Esther, an orphan, Jewish woman in the bible was fortunate that God blessed her with a husband, King Xerxes. Esther had plenty of competition from other women to be the next Queen but, God’s favour was on her. God ordered Queen Esther to reveal to King Xerxes she was a Jew in order to save her people from genocide. Esther wept at her husband’s feet not to kill her family member Mordecai and the Jews. “For how can I endure the murdering and slaughter of my people” – Esther 8:6. Esther prayed, fasted, and prepared a feast for the King and as a result he didn’t kill the Jews. So in this story we understand the importance of trusting God to bless us with the right partner, to lovingly help our partner, to pray and obey God.

We are created to love one another. To live a life without someone to love is not living, it is existing. We all have love in our hearts to give. Life has more meaning when we’re in love. Scientists have proven that love changes our brain chemistry. You can usually tell when a family member or friend has a new love interest in their life. They have a glow and are smiling from ear to ear with happiness.


Dating someone for money reveals your superficiality. You sabotage your chances of finding true love when you put a price tag on it. Money can’t hold you tight at night or comfort you when you’re sick. Money can make anyone look desirable and lure you into a relationship, but after the money is gone then what do you have left if there is no one to love? Loving a pet or child is no substitute for loving a spouse.

With economic inflation, and companies laying people off, Ladies we need to understand that many men are unemployed or underemployed. We don’t want to miss out on a good man. Getting to know someone and building a relationship is done by spending quality time it’s not all about going on expensive dates, and buying gifts. You can go to church, a museum, gym, park, watch the stars, watch a sunset, cook a meal or volunteer at an event together.

Allow love to develop and grow. Ladies, I urge you to get to know a man. Don’t let his job, income, car or the his shoes influence your decision. No romance without finance means the success of the relationship is doomed. Money can’t buy love. Somethings are not for sale.

The conversation you need to have with your partner regarding money is a case-by-case basis. There is no hard rule for how much a man and woman should contribute when paying for things. The most important thing to do is communicate – talk to your partner or the person you are dating and come to a compromise. If they are special to you, you should never let money get in the way of a good relationship.

Beloved this is my prayer for you:

Dear Lord Heavenly Father thank you for providing a suitable partner for me. As I patiently wait, please prepare me for marriage. Through the blood of Jesus cleanse me and make me whole. May I be receptive to love and be loving towards others. Open up my eyes Lord to see the right partner whom you have chosen for me. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen


Mark Me Not

Who’s ready for the day when your employer tells you to take a microchip? How will you respond? What will you do when they insist it will be more convenient and simplify your life? No more identification badges or credit cards, all of your medical information will be stored on the microchip. What if your child’s school requests to microchip your child? Or if your spouse or loved one gets microchipped in ignorance?

Come on, let’s face it, a lot of our day to day items already contain a microchip such as our bank cards, bus/train cards, driver license cards, some passports, etc. This was all a warm up to get us acclimated to being microchipped. Pet owners microchip their dogs and cats to ensure they can locate them in case they get lost. Some people have already received the radio frequency identification (RFID) microchip in their hand just between the thumb and index finger, will you?

I recall first learning about the microchip by reading the book “Behold a Pale Horse” by Milton William Cooper. The ex U. S. Naval intelligence member reveals the government’s agenda to get everyone microchipped by any means necessary, but particularly through the use of a vaccine disguised as a measure to prevent a disease which was produced in the lab. The book was published in 1991 so the microchip idea was planned years ago!

The Bible in the book of Revelations also discusses the microchip, how it is the mark of the beast, a powerful anti christ leader. People won’t be able to buy or sell products and services without it. How are you supposed to eat if the grocery store will only accepts microchip payments? This is a serious thought to consider: If your life was on the line would you receive the microchip? My response is mark me not! I am a believer of Christ and I’d rather die than be microchipped.

Your Enemies Have No Power


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Enemies, well that’s one thing we all have in common no one leaves earth without ever having 1.

They may smile and tell you sweet lies or be bold and curse you to your face but, remember your enemies have no power.

What they fail to understand is the hatred they exhibit towards another is indeed a distraction from their own shortcomings.  Aww, how sad it is to know how bad some people are hurting.  Life is a luxurious experience worthy of enjoyment.

The bible in the book of 1 Samuel chapter 19 discusses Saul hating David to death.  He actually wanted to kill him but, after multiple attempts he didn’t succeed.  Oh no, God’s power intervened.  Saul, after sending many men to murder David ended up praying with him.  How cool is that?

You see when God blesses you no man woman or child can curse you.  Those haters confirm God’s call of assignment on your life,  God’s favour is upon you beloved.  Wipe away your tears.  Know the true enemy is the devil who is a liar, a robber and a murderer.  Don’t ever allow anyone to take your joy, your peace or your will to live a prosperous life.  God has all power and he will fight your battles for you.  Trust God.

Be Awesomely Authentic

Psalm 139:14 “I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;

Marvelous are Your works,  And that my soul knows very well. “

Be who you were born to be.

Do what makes you happy.

Surround yourself with people you enjoy being around.

Use your talents or discover them by exploring your likes and dislikes.

You are a masterpiece just the way you are so, don’t pretend to be anyone else.

Feel comfortable in your own skin.  Accept yourself fully even with minor flaws.

Be unapologetically unique.

Enjoy each moment.

Seize every opportunity to

Be Awesomely Authentic.

For there is only one you.




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When you hear the word Faith what thoughts come to your mind? 





Holy Spirit

Faith is not what you see with natural eyes, but what you see with your spiritual eyes.  Faith is what you feel in your heart.  Faith says “Keep on fighting and never give up until you succeed”.  Faith in God is what you need to depend on.  Not horoscopes.  Not the news.  Not what your friends say.  Faith is true.

There were times when all I had to hold onto was my Faith especially when I first moved back to the U.K. from the U.S.A. 

No it wasn’t always easy, but I knew my Faith in God would pull me through.  When I felt down I would play gospel praise and worship music, read scriptures aloud, pray to God, watch Christian television shows and movies.  It was truly helpful and lifted my spirit up significantly. 

The bible says in Hebrews 10:22 “Let’s draw near with a true heart in fullness of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience, and having our body washed with pure water”. 

Hebrews 11:6 “But without Faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him”.

My prayer for you is that you keep the Faith and allow the holy spirit to burn bright in your life.